When a parent alienates a grandchild from their grandparents, they are emotionally abusing that child.
I receive calls regularly from distressed grandparents who have to witness their grandchildren being put in impossible positions of which they have no control.
Children who run to their grandparents with arms wide open, not understanding why they have been sent away, in some cases, children uprooted from their friends, schools and family, because a new partner is on the scene and is coercing the resident parent to move away.
Grandchildren who have had a very close relationship with their grandparents, spending a great deal of time with one another. Being picked up from school by them everyday, going for sleepovers regularly and sharing that special relationship between grandchild and grandparents.
Suddenly, they are told that it is time to say goodbye.
What do you say when a grandchild asks, ” Why do I have to move away, why can’t I come for tea anymore?”
No-one can ever say any of this is in the child’s best interest, of course it isn’t.
The grandchildren think it is their fault that they must have been really naughty for this to be happening.
To be a grandparent who has to watch your grandchild being firmly led away from you, dragged to the car, crying silent tears, looking out of the window as they are driven away, it is unbearable.
If it is unbearable for the grandparent, we can not possibly imagine how it feels to be that grandchild.
What makes anyone behave in such an evil way?
I can only assume they are jealous.
Jealous of that special relationship, because they haven’t got it, then no-one is going to have it, at any expense.
If that means breaking the heart of a child, removing them from those who love them, taking away that stability, then so be it.
These alienators only care about themselves, they have no compassion or empathy, the new partner needs to stand firm to get their own way.
You may wonder why the resident parent doesn’t stop this happening, it is as I say because they are being controlled, by their new partner, and they will do anything for a quiet life. So if that means cutting your Mum/Dad out of your child’ life, the people who have always been there to give their love and support, they do.
The new partner rules.
If they think that at some point the children will love and respect them, believe me, that will never happen. When I say children never forget their grandparents, they also never forget wrong doing.
The perpetrators who cause so much pain to a child will never be forgiven.
