Daddy doesn’t love me, Mummy doesn’t love me

BGSG has always been about the rights of children and not about grandparents rights, and this is why.

We are all aware that our young people are reported to be unhappy children believing that they are not loved.

What do you say to the child who says,

‘Daddy doesn’t love me’ or ‘Mummy doesn’t love me?’

To the hundreds of thousands of parents who are desperate to be part of their children’s lives,  you may find it difficult to believe that there are some parents who really don’t want to see their children.

Grandparents are often the ones the children will ask these difficult questions to.

How do you explain to a child who has tried to contact a parent and has either had no reply or a one word response? And they ask you ‘why?’

Children are breaking their hearts, thinking they must have done something so terrible that one of their parents can’t be bothered with them, they blame themselves.

Months and months can pass with no contact, no explanation.

Brothers and sisters left wondering.

These children want to share things with the absent parent, they want to tell them that they got a certificate today at school, that they had a really good school report or that they have a new friend, but there attempts to share hit a brick wall.

I wonder why on earth parents such as these had children in the first place, did they not realise that children need both parents, need to know they are loved, a fundamental human need.

Just because the going gets tough,or a new relationship is formed does not mean that you somehow are no longer a parent.

You are a parent for life.

You have a responsibility to your children.

I wonder how these children will cope with their own relationships, when the very person who should have always been there for them, let them down so badly, how will they ever trust anyone again?

I don’t believe that couples should stay together for the sake of the children, but the children’s needs should always be put first.

Children just want to be loved to enable them to feel valued, and allow them to grow.

If you are a parent who is neglecting your child in this way, be warned.

When the day comes when you think that it might be a good idea to get back in contact as it suits you now, they will not receive you with open arms, it will be too late, you will have lost them for good.





About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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