What is grief and how do we work with it.
As you know unjustified estrangement is often referred to a living bereavement, consequently we go through the grieving process.
There are seven stages of grief.
- Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings. There are so many different emotions at this stage. Mourning, sadness, confusion, discomfort.
- Pain and guilt. The pain felt is unimaginable and unbearable, you may feel remorse and guilt, the if only stage.
- Anger and bargaining. The why me? Resentment.
- Depression. it is at this stage that ‘friends’ will tell you to move on! The sadness is all encompassing, the reality of the loss comes to the for. You feel crushed.
- The upward turn. Adjustment to your loss, and the depression should lift slightly. You can become a bit stronger and motivated.
- Reconstruction and working through. You begin to build your life without that loved one.
- Acceptance and hope. Acceptance doesn’t necessarily mean instant happiness, but you will begin to find a way forward, grief will have changed you but you can see the forward path.You will find joy in your life again.
Always remember you don’t have to face this alone there are numerous groups to help you and remember above all.
Grief is love, with nowhere to go.
