I am sorry that I have not been about as much as I would have liked but as you know Marc has been ill and it has been a long hard process for him, after almost five weeks I am hopeful he will be able to come home in the next few days, and a brand new chapter of adaptation for us both will begin.
Firstly I would like to thank all of you who have written, messaged and sent amazing gifts for us, you have all been so kind and just knowing there are people out there rooting for you, has been what has sustained me through some very difficult times and experiences.
I have learnt a great deal during this time about myself and about others, I have learnt that often those who you thought would always step up when things are tough, dont. It is the unexpected people who become your lifeline,your security.
So of you will know that I don’t drive, one of my biggest regrets, so when Marc was sent to the other side of the city for residential rehab, my heart sank. Our local hospital where he started this journey was not far to go, the place he in now, is three buses away a journey of an hour and 15 mins. So you can imagine my panic of wondering how I was going to be able to go and see him everyday, as I had been doing.
It was at that point that my neighbours said that I was not to worry and that they would make sure I got there and back. Two in particular have been amazing and have done just that,everyday we troop off and a few hours later they come and get me,
I will never be able to thank them enough,they have been my security blanket.
I write so often here about breakdown off relationships, but this just shows that there are millions of wonderful relationships going on out there, we just don’t hear about them. Special people making a difference to others in a calm kind way, wanting nothing in return.
When a relationship breaks down for us, it is just a horrible toxic area to be in it is easy to become negative about all relationships, but we mustn’t allow ourselves to fall into that trap.
Yes of course acknowledge the devastation we are going through but also understand that when we least expect it, someone special does step into our lives ready to shoulder our burden.
Always except that offer of help, even though you feel you have to deal with everything on your own, the person offering help wants to be able make things better for you, in whatever practical way they can.
I could write a blog on the broken system within the justice system, and could also write a blog on the breakdown of our health system, but better not or I shall still be writing next year!
This has been a hard time, but the sun has always risen and it will continue to do so whatever is going on in our personal lives.
Just keep looking up.
