Letter to Alienated Children.

Dear Alienated Children,

It may be that you are not able to see one of your parents or grandparents at the moment, it may be that you feel it is not the right time to regain contact, but it is important that you know that these people who are not in your life at this time have never stopped loving you.

You are and always will be a son/daughter, grandson/granddaughter, children who are precious people and loved and missed every single day.

We understand that it is difficult for you to express your feelings for those you are apart from, it can make you feel disloyal to those close to you.

You came into this world from the love of two people, the blood of both runs through your veins you have a family history and identity.

I can’t explain how things went wrong, but relationships are not always easy and as adults we often don’t behave the way we should. As the adults we should always put children first and not let them be caught up in the trauma involved in a relationship breakdown. As parents it should be our job to keep children safe and loved, to always put you first, before our own feelings. Sadly sometimes we get it wrong and we hurt those closest to us.

It may be that it is necessary sometimes for us to give you space, to allow you to do what children should be able to do. To grow and flourish without conflict in your family. You may feel that one of your parents or grandparents have let you down, you may even have been told that they don’t love or care for you anymore.

Never, ever believe that.

Christmas is always a difficult time for families who are apart, parents and grandparent unable to share presents and cards with those they love. Christmas is a time of hope, a time of looking towards the light, we all hope you have a wonderful Christmas and that in those precious moments of reflection you will know that we are all standing under the same sky and stars, and that we are always here for you.

Not one day will pass without you being in our hearts.

With love from,

Your mum/dad, gran/grandad, aunt/uncle/cousins. x



About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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