This Sunday there will be many Mums who won’t be waking to the sound of whispering children outside their bedroom door as they fly in with soggy Weetabix and hand made cards made with love and care.
Everywhere we go the shops are full of cards and gifts for children to give to their Mums, if you are estranged from your children/grandchildren these days can be triggers to set us off down that dark spiral of depression.
We can all remember I am sure how when you are struggling with young children, with not enough hours in the day, that someone will always say, “It gets easier when they are older.”
We did no doubt think of those future days when we would have a close bond with our young adults, sadly we know only too well that those days, are not what we expected.
None of you ever thought that you would be in the position you are, where an adult child has withdrawn from you.
Many Mums will be waiting and hoping that they get the phone call they want so badly, only to be met with silence.
It is ok to feel angry, after all those years of nurturing,and it is ok to feel desperately hurt.
The anger you feel is also grief of what you have lost.
Many of you will have apologised for anything you may have done to cause them upset, only to be rejected again.
By apologising it is all part of a healing process, if not for your adult child but a small step to healing for yourself.
I was asked how can we protect ourselves from days like this?
I don’t have an answer, you are all different and will react in different ways.
I suppose it is in acknowledging that these particular days are going to be hard, and another step in this journey.
Whatever you decide to do on Sunday, maybe celebrate yourself or totally ignore it, that’s ok.
For everyone who will feel their loss, be assured that the sun will rise on a brand new day on Monday.
