No fault divorce ?

Last week here in the UK there was a great banging of drums as ‘No Fault Divorce’ was introduced, but is it really the answer?

It may be a small step in the correct directions, but until we acknowledge the damage done to all concerned in the Family Justice system, nothing will change.

Family breakdown has to be treated as the public health issue it is, rather than a legal issue.

Anyone who has been through the system knows how distressing it can be.

Children don’t care that, no fault divorce, is now a thing, they just need to know that they will be loved by both parents and extended family, as they always have been.

When a relationship starts to break down, everyone needs to come together to give help and support to all family members, each and everyone putting the children’s needs at the forefront of all decisions.

For decades the Family Justice system has let those children down, almost everyone you talk to, including many lawyers and Judges, agree that court is not the place to deal with this health emergency.

Changing a system that is embedded can’t happen overnight, it will take a long time to get it right, but the children deserve us to get it right.

We must avoid intervention when it is all too often too late.

Education is key.

Education of the professional agencies involved in family breakdown, educating children in the importance of relationships at an early age and how to deal with conflict etc.

Parents need to be educated in the effect a bad divorce can have on children, therefore focusing their minds on putting the children first, to empower them to make the right choices.

It is about re-imagining the entire journey of separation/divorce, families need to be able to avoid the adversarial and sometimes harmful nature of court, early intervention could provide that help and support.

We all want happy healthy family relationships, and the change has to start now.

We are talking about a society and cultural shift, so that it becomes as socially unacceptable to deny contact as drink driving or getting into a car and not putting your seat belt on.

Cultural change takes time and goodwill from everyone and a fundamental need to protect our children from this virus, that is enveloping the globe.

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Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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