Starting or leading a group for grandparents who are cut off from their grandchildren isn’t about having all the answers — it’s about creating a safe, welcoming space where people feel less alone. Groups like the Bristol Grandparents Support Group have shown how powerful it is when people come together to share their stories.
1. What’s the point?
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To give grandparents a place to talk, cry, laugh and just be heard.
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To share ideas on coping, especially around birthdays, Christmas or Mother’s/Father’s Day.
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To remind people they’re not the only ones going through this.
2. How to set it up
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Size: Small works best, maybe 6–12 people.
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When: Once or twice a month, for about an hour or so.
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Where: A community hall, church room, café back room, or online (Zoom works well too).
3. Keeping it safe and kind
A few gentle “house rules” make a big difference:
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What’s said in the room stays in the room.
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Let everyone have their turn — no talking over.
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No judging: everyone’s story is different.
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No pressure to share if someone just wants to listen.
4. A simple meeting flow
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Welcome & cuppa — check in, ask how everyone’s doing.
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Focus topic — e.g. “Coping with special occasions” or “Looking after yourself.”
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Sharing time — people talk about their experiences, if they want to.
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Tips/resources — maybe a book someone’s read, or something from a group like Bristol’s.
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Round-up & positive ending — finish with something hopeful, like a reminder of the strength people have shown just by being there.
5. Your role as host
You don’t need to be a counsellor — just a steady, caring presence.
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Keep an eye on time.
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Make sure everyone feels safe and respected.
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Step in gently if one person talks for too long or if the chat gets too heavy.
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Offer ideas for self-care and places people can go for more support.
6. Getting the word out
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Posters in libraries, GP surgeries, community centres.
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Mention it on local Facebook groups.
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Let counsellors or family support services know you exist — they may refer people.
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You could even reach out to groups like Bristol’s for advice — they’re very supportive of new groups starting up.
💡 Final thought: Estrangement can feel like a hidden grief. A support group won’t fix everything, but it can ease the loneliness. Sometimes just sitting in a room (or on a Zoom call) with others who get it is enough to bring a little light back in.
