If you have been fortunate enough to fall in love, at some time in your life, I wonder if you can remember what it felt like?
It can come at you like a ten ton truck.
When you fall in love it is all encompassing, you wake up in the morning thinking of that wonderful person, you go to bed at night thinking of them.
You don’t feel the cold as love keeps you warm.
Every characteristic is endearing.
You grow together, learning brand new things about each other minute by minute.
To love and to be loved can be overwhelming.
If you decide to make a commitment to another, you may choose to do so by marrying and making vows. Making promises to each other. On that special day you make those promises in good faith.
But how is it possible to know if you can keep them?
In any relationship there will be highs and lows, it takes hard work and compromise.
That first flush of falling love, does alter as time goes on.
Those endearing characteristic you once found endearing can become annoying!
The pressure of having a family can also take its toll, parenting is the hardest job in the world and no-one tells you how to do it, you learn on the job.
We all know that there will be those relationships that will not succeed, for many reasons, and the all too well known fallout of family breakdown hurts children.
That loving couple who stood together making promises to each other, somehow turn against one another.
Often children are used as weapons, and alienation takes place.
We must find ways of supporting and helping couples, quickly, all agencies need to work together if we really mean what we say about looking after the well-being of children, because if we can help Mums and Dads hopefully it will help children in continuing a loving and healthy relationship with both parents and extended family.
Education is also key.
Everyone wants healthy family relationships.
