I am sure we all have our own definition of ‘family’, but families are now so much more than the nuclear family
Nuclear family is a family group consisting of parents and their children, typically living in one home residence. The alternative name, ‘cereal packet family’ is used in relation to the stereotypical/ traditional nuclear family as portrayed in advertisements.
As we all know the ‘family portrayed in advertisements ‘ actually doesn’t exist.
For me my family is everything, without my family I don’t know why I am here.
Family is the reason for my very being, I would do anything to keep them safe, healthy and happy, as a family we care about one another, I was brought up to believe in family and I hope my children also feel the same, and that they will instill that family matters to their children.
I have written before about relationships needing to be a two way relationship, no more so than within the family.
We share joy but we also have to support family members when things are not going so well, a proper family rides the good and the bad times, together.
Let’s face it, all families go through tough times but by being respectful. caring and not selfish we can work together to get through.
All too often outside influences can interfere with the stability of family, someone who wants to control either family members or a family situation can cause immense destruction.
A controller will pit one family member against another, they can make someone feel guilty if they continue communication with others, often they are very manipulative and plausible, making themselves some sort of victim caused by family members.
I would say to anyone who feels this might be happening to them, to take a step back, question that person’s actions, are they thinking about you, and what is best for you?
No, they aren’t.
Let’s think about the controller and why do they need to control.
They need to be right, and have things done their way,they are never wrong, so won’t accept blame,they have to be centre of attention, you can’t predict what they might say or do,they will never accept reality so they lie. The need to be incharge of finances, of who you are friends with, they want to isolate you from others, it is a horrible position to be in and can make you fearful.
By cutting you off from your family members they are controlling you.
A family needs to pull even closer together if you think this is taking place.
This situation can and does happen even when a reconciliation has happened after estrangement.
We all dream of being reunited, but there are those who will still try to undo that reconciliation, they won’t be happy until they have broken that relationship again.
In these circumstances we have to hope that we have proved ourselves to be loving,caring people who want our families to be there for one another.
