Definition of relationship:
A relationship is the way two or more people are connected, or the way they behave toward each other.
In other words all parties need to want that relationship, a one sided relationship is never going to be successful.
As humans we crave to be able to share our love and care with others, we weren’t meant to be isolated from others we need one another.
Sadly all too often the relationship we have with someone else is not reciprocated and we are left confused and sad.
In an ideal scenario, when we feel things are not as they once were we should be able to sit down and have a grown up conversation with each other, but sometimes the barriers go up and that conversation is not allowed to happen.
A true relationship is when two parties have empathy for one another, are willing to give and receive support as and when required, and there is genuine care for one another.
These relationships don’t happen overnight, it takes hard work from everyone, patience and resilience.
We don’t have to agree with one another over everything,but we do need to respect other points of view and agree to disagree.
Reconciliation after estrangement, is not always the panacea we would like it to be.
Many years may have past, and in that lost time all family members have continued their lives without that special person, we all change and our circumstances mold us into the people we become.
In many ways we have become strangers.
The euphoria of reconciliation soon becomes a realization that however hard we work to rebuild these relationships, if only one side is willing to work equally as hard then the possibility that it will fail increases, and that ever fear of being rejected again becomes reality.
Those lost years may have caused a lifetime of damage,and sometimes with all the love we have we can’t repair that damage.
As I have said if people can’t come together and have a grown up conversation, how can we move forward?
I also mentioned respect, and so we have to in the end respect others, and if others don’t want us in their lives then we have to accept that, however painful it might be.
We just need to remind ourselves that we did all we could do to try and rebuild trust and to rebuild that broken relationship, and that we are still here, the door is still open should it ever be needed.
