It’s going to be lonely this Christmas.

Extract of an article:

Grandparents will be wrapping their Christmas presents,  a scene being repeated  in households across the land as the countdown to the festive season begins in earnest.

Presents for those precious grandchildren.

Not every grandparent will be able to see the joy in their grandchild’s eyes on Christmas morning, these grandparents are just one of the estimated 2 million who are denied contact with their grandchildren.

They will never know if their presents bought and wrapped with love will ever reach the intended recipient.

Some grandparents will go through the same process as they have done for many years, and the presents will join all the other presents, lovingly put into a memory box.

A box that they hope they will, one day, be able to give their grandchildren.

The increase of grandparents being estranged and alienated from their grandchildren is overwhelming.

When I  set up Bristol Grandparents Support Group in 2007,  the estimated number then was 1 million when I lost contact with my granddaughter after my sons’ divorce, and in 12 years the number just keeps on going up.

It is estimated that there are 14 million grandparents in the UK and 1 in 7 grandparents are denied contact, this equates to 2 million grandparents, and at the very least 2 million grandchildren prevented from having a loving and caring relationship with their grandparents. ( Source: IBB Solicitors commissioned Atomik Ltd Research to do a survey.)

At Christmas time it is increasingly difficult, we are bombarded by pictures of happy families all sitting together having a wonderful time, and yet grandparents and grandchildren just yearn for that moment of contact.

Many will just wrap themselves up in their duvet and wait for the festivities to be over.

For over 10 years I have had a Christmas Tree in my garden, it is called our ‘Tree of Hope’ grandparents come and write messages to their grandchildren and put them on the tree. Those who live in different parts of the country and overseas, email me their messages and I write them out and put them on the tree. As we get closer to Christmas the tree is covered with messages of love, it is our beacon of light for those in a very dark place.

Bristol Grandparents Support Group is all about Grandchildren’s Rights and their right to a relationship with their extended family after a family breakdown.

Family breakdown can be a result of separation or divorce, drug or alcohol dependancy, domestic abuse within the home, bereavement or family fall out, however we find ourselves in this heartbreaking situation the result is always the same, grandchildren and grandparents being apart.

The ethos of BGSG has always been, to never give up hope, and after 11 years our granddaughter came back into our lives, so keep believing.

If anyone would like to add a message to their grandchildren for our ‘Tree of Hope,” please do get in contact, you can visit our website or email me or ring our Helpline : 07773258270.

Remember you are not alone.

About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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