Looking after me

Each and every one of us know how important it is to look after ourselves, but how many of us don’t put it into practice?

Today I wrote on Twitter and said that at the beginning of the week I am going to try hard not to engage in anything negative.

Social media plays such an important role in our mental health.

Scrolling down post after post, more often than not they will be negative, posters ranting and raving about all manner of things, and it is all too easy to jump on the bandwagon.

Of course Parental Alienation, Grandparent Alienation, Radical Feminism, Gender wars, Domestic Abuse, are subjects that my mind focusses on, but it is not a healthy place to be.

Discussions soon turn into aggressive posts and comments.

Reading all of this stuff on a daily basis takes its toll.

The whole world is facing catastrophic change not in the future but right now, a time when we should all be joining together, social media is doing the reverse. You may think that we just need to stop looking at these platforms, and yes we should, but we don’t.

Of course social media is a great tool for many, it is a great place to raise awareness and to campaign on all sorts of good causes.

The trouble is that all of us who are raising awareness about something, are also passionate about that subject, and it can overflow into aggressive posts and target those we feel don’t agree or those we feel should be doing something to make changes. It is totally understandable that we all get frustrated, at the indifference of others.

Is that the way to get someone to listen to our point of view?

We will never be able to agree with everyones opinion but we must be respectful of differing views.

Sadly we hear all the time about how comments and posts can get out of hand, and the devastation it can cause.

As I said at the beginning of this blog, I know how all this negativity gets under my skin, even keeping me awake at night, so something has to change.

I am not suggesting that we all have to be positive about everything, of course that is almost impossible but we can ,make positive changes in our own lives, to free us from the aggression and negativity that surrounds us.

At the end of each day we have to find peace with ourselves, to have our minds racing with worry and concern, is not a peaceful place.

In ‘real’ life we are all dealing with huge amounts of stress and worries, be that in our family life, work life or looking at the bigger picture of what a mess the world is in, lets try to keep in the here and now, focus on those we love, focus on those who want to be in our lives, do our bit to make changes to make a better future for the next generation, let’s not look at the future with hopelessness but with hope.

Above all else, check in with yourself every day, just ask yourself “Am I ok?”

If you are not ok, talk to a friend, treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend, and ignore social media, that is not where real life happens.


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Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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