I am often asked why I set up a support group for estranged grandparents.
One reason is obvious, because I was estranged myself as was my son, and I just needed to turn a negative into a positive, somehow, and for me that was why.
Of course when BGSG first evolved I had no idea what the response would be or how it would impact fully on my life.
Some say, there is no point of a support group,well you would expect me to defend that, as I do rigorously.
Having meetings, listening to people on the helpline is the positive, I was looking for. Traumatised,deeply hurt people coming together with the very best intentions in the world, to share their experience and in doing so helping others.
This was never about person glorification, never about being a public face with regard to unjustified estrangement, it was something that just happened. I certainly did not go looking for acknowledgement in any way.
A support group is not about any one individual person, as group leaders we facilitate, it is the members of the groups who are the ones who make it work and the contribution each and every one of them brings is priceless.
Group leaders give of their time freely, they don’t continually tell people that they do, they just get on with it, quietly with dignity, giving that support to people who ask for it. As I have said so many times before, group leaders are wonderful and they are life savers.
Of course over 16 years there have been those out to discredit BGSG, I assume they have their reasons, I have no idea why.
It is beyond my understanding that people who are in this horrible place of estrangement as a result of another person controlling a situation and yet, they then behave in a similar way.
Why would anyone, start a gossip train of untruths about another support group?
I hope that anyone who really knows me knows that, I don’t have ‘sides’ to me, I am not founder of BGSG for any personal gain at all, I care deeply about family and I care deeply about the effect unjustified estrangement has on our grandchildren.
At BGSG we will continue to do what we have been doing for years, and continue focussing on those who ask for support, as we have always done.