How to regain joy

It is difficult when we are estranged from the people we love to think that there is any joy in our lives, but there is we just have to delve a bit deeper.

If I was to give you a special hour where you had no responsibilities, or pressures from outside influence how would you spend that precious hour?

Most of us would actually find that question difficult to answer.

We all have so much going on in our lives that we have forgotten who the real us, is and forgotten how to find joy in our lives.

Our lives are a roller coaster of ups and downs, so much so that we have neglected the simple pleasures in life.

There is no reason why we can’t make today the day when we start self compassion and take back control to allow us permission to find the joy.

We need to start by thinking what is important to us, and that will be different for everyone, because we are all unique.

You could think about what are you doing when you feel good, are you the person you really would like to be, where would you like to spend time and energy?

How do we make those around us feel?

Our minds play havoc with us every day, we question our actions, we all have that inner voice that constantly makes us doubt ourselves, we need to learn to stick to our decisions and boundaries. We can believe that taking time just for us is somehow selfish, but it isn’t, we need to allow time and space to think about what is good for us.

When thinking about how we can change the dialogue we have with ourselves we need SMART targets.

Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.

In other words keep it simple, we are trying to break habits of a lifetime, so small changes are fine,don’t set yourself up to fail.

These changes, are for us to give ourselves permission to find joy in our lives, each and every one of us deserves that opportunity.

It takes work and patience with ourselves, be kind to yourself.

Above all else, let the joy in.







About Jane

Jane setup Bristol Grandparent Support Group in 2007 after a string of incidents led to the loss of contact with her Grand Daughter.

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